- December 4, 2024
- Posted by: David Marshall
- Category: Leadership, Management
Emotional intelligence (EI) can make or break your effectiveness as a leader. Technical skills alone won’t cut it. In fact, according to the Peter Principle — that’s where you’re promoted to your level of incompetence — there is a very good chance you won’t be effective as a leader.
That’s because most corporations don’t train their leaders or provide any kind of mentorship. They just assume that if you were good at a job, you’ll be great at telling others how to do that job.
But that’s not what leadership is. Leadership is about helping people do their best and achieve their fullest potential. That takes emotional intelligence.
Emotional intelligence is the ability to read and understand people, manage your own emotions, and understand and influence the emotions of others. It’s basically your built-in radar for feelings, both yours and everyone else’s.
This isn’t just about being empathetic and putting yourself in other people’s shoes; it’s about creating a work environment where people actually want to show up and give their best. It’s about creating a place where people feel heard and appreciated, and not just a cog in a machine.
Don’t worry, it’s not about group hugs and sharing feelings. It’s about being aware of the emotional currents in your team, and using that awareness to drive productivity and morale. Or, as Christina Perry, director of organizational learning at Peregrine Global Services, said, “Emotional intelligence means acknowledging that we are not rational human beings and that emotions really regulate more of our decisions and behavior than we realize.”
The Four Pillars of Emotional Intelligence in Leadership
EI in leadership is built on four key components: self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, and relationship management.
Self-awareness is about knowing your strengths, weaknesses, and emotional triggers. This helps you anticipate how you might react in different situations, which allows you to manage your responses more effectively. For example, if you know you have a short fuse at home, you probably have one at work, too. Practice self-awareness and pay attention to how you act in certain situations and around certain people.
Self-management takes this awareness one step further by helping you channel your emotions productively. It’s not about suppressing your feelings, but about using them to drive positive outcomes. For example, if you’re frustrated with a project delay, self-management will help you express that frustration constructively, rather than popping off in a meeting.
Social awareness is your ability to read the room and understand what others are feeling. Rather than just knowing about your own strengths, weaknesses, and emotional triggers, it’s knowing the same things in others. Having good social awareness helps you tailor your communication style to each team member, knowing when you be direct and when to be more supportive.
Finally, relationship management is where you put all this together. It’s where you use your EI to build strong, positive relationships with your staff. By understanding and empathizing with others, you can create a more cohesive and more motivated team. That doesn’t mean you have to be everyone’s best friend or parental figure, but it does mean genuinely caring about your team members’ well-being and success. (Remember, their success is the company’s success!)
Gone are the days of “There’s only one communication style, and it’s mine.” Now, you have to be aware of how everyone communicates and understand what they need, and be able to communicate in that style with them.
How EI Improves Leadership Effectiveness
Practicing emotional intelligence will improve your leadership because it will enhance your communication. You’ll be able to tailor your message to resonate with each team member and ensure you’re all operating on the same wavelength. This reduces misunderstandings and miscommunications, which are often the root of most workplace conflicts, as well as most ’80s comedies.
Having strong EI also improves your problem-solving abilities. By understanding the emotional nuances of a situation — this is just as important as having all the details about the problem — you cut out the noise and get to the heart of the issues faster. This means you resolve conflicts more efficiently and make better decisions that take both the logical and emotional aspects of a problem into account.
Plus, emotionally intelligent leaders create a more positive work environment. Your people feel valued, understood, and heard. This boosts team morale, which leads to higher productivity and job satisfaction, which reduces turnover and employee shortages.
Change is constant in manufacturing, and there’s already a labor shortage as it is. You can reduce the number of people who leave just by practicing a little emotional intelligence.
Developing Your Emotional Intelligence
EI is not something you’re born with, it’s a skill you can develop over time. One way is to start by practicing self-reflection. Take time each day to think about your emotions and reactions. What triggered them? How did you handle them? This can help you become more aware of your emotional landscape.
Another powerful tool is to seek honest feedback from your team. It might sting, but it’s ideal for your growth. Active listening is also important, especially at that moment. Next time someone is talking to you, really listen. Put down your phone, close your laptop, and pay attention to what is being said to you. Don’t just wait for your turn to speak, and don’t try to multitask.
Practice empathy by seeing situations from others’ viewpoints. It doesn’t mean agreeing with them every time, just understand where they’re coming from. You also don’t have to solve every problem immediately, but it does mean being present and supportive. (Active listening helps here, too.)
Finally, learn to manage your own stress. A stressed-out leader is rarely effective, so find healthy ways to manage stress, whether it’s exercise, meditation, cutting out caffeine, or just taking a walk.
Being a manager often just means having the technical know-how of the work your team performs, but that’s table stakes; it’s the price of entry. If you want to be a real leader, you need to have emotional intelligence. It’s not just about being “nice,” it’s about being effective.
Understand the emotions at play and use that to communicate more effectively, solve problems more efficiently, and create a work environment where people thrive.
I’ve been a manufacturing executive, as well as a sales and marketing professional, for a few decades. Now, I help companies turn around their own business, including pivoting within their industry. If you would like more information, please visit my website and connect with me on Twitter, Facebook, or LinkedIn.
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